Do you want them to talk it out? Do you want them to communicate?
If this is what many of us want from our children then why do we not model this? Why do adults jump on Facebook and bash? Why do adults meet up and gossip? Why do so many adults feel confrontational rather than constructive & collaborative?
I'm a parent and for years when my kids were little I didn't believe they were watching and listening. Boy was I wrong! When I would laugh at a joke on the radio or say something on the phone to a friend my kids would then repeat or ask questions. This was my first tip that they were watching (even when I didn't think they were watching).
Next came a time of code. I remember my wife and I spelling things out in the car. We would say things like, "On Saturday let's go S..H..O..P..P..I..N..G for D..R..E..W. " Moments later Drew would say, "What are you going to get me?" Our goose was cooked! Talking in code didn't last long and now we have decided that we need to keep it clean, positive and kid friendly all the time.
When the boys are playing a sport we don't yell from the stands. We cheer and encourage. When the boys come home upset with something at school or practice, we problem solve, role play and talk it out. We don't angrily call the teacher, coach or post something on social media.
I'm a believer in the power of positive attitude. When my son is a grump at 8am I try my best to snap him out of it. I take pride in my positive attitude, I know on any given day I have no less than 800 eyes on me. Some may see this as pressure...I see this as opportunity. "Be the change you wish to see in the World." -Gandhi
Next time you're frustrated, annoyed or simply angry...think about the example you are setting for your child. What we model seems to repeat, please remember, The Apple Doesn't Fall Far...
Articles Worth Reading:
Kindergarten is the new first grade
Our inability to see ahead
Adreian Payne Story (Fantastic Read!)
27 Ways To Check Students Prior Knowledge
Videos Worth Watching:
Speak-Life Project by a Middle School student. Very powerful and inspiring! (7 min)
Ashton Kutcher has a message for all kids...hard work makes a difference! This really amazed me. (5 min)